Why having your heartbroken it’s a good thing (a message to all the single ladies)

“You have to keep breaking your heart until it opens”

Powerful, isn’t it? For years and years, society has told us that having a broken heart is a misfortunate event.

.. My

point being, when you are young and you are going trough that first pain, you think it is the end of the world, but it is not.
Having my heart broken taught me so many different things that now I am actually grateful it happened.
As I am writing this article, for some strange reason, Taylor’s Swift song ‘Fifteen’ popped into my head.
“When all you wanted was to be wanted
Wish you could go back and tell yourself what you know now.
Back then, I swore I was going to marry him someday
but I realized some bigger dreams of mine
and Abigail gave everything she had to a boy who changed his mind
and we both cried
‘Cause when you’re fifteen and somebody tells you they love you
you’re going to believe them
and when you’re fifteen, don’t forget to look before you fall
I’ve found time can heal most anything
And you just might find who you’re supposed to be.”

At a

young age, having a boyfriend feels like the biggest accomplishment in your life and you just wish to feel desired, wanted, loved.
Where am I going with this? You may wonder. You see, I’ve learned some very important things from

being in and out of love that I wish to share them with you:

1. Enjoy
2. Value it
3. Don’t take it for grantedgranted
4. Don’t be afraid of your feelings

feelings

5. It is never too late

Enjoy:

Maybe

this love will last forever or an eternity as short as a month, nevertheless you have to enjoy it no matter what, because even thought having your heart broken might leave you empty for a while, you have to enjoy the fulfillment you get from being with the person you love.

Appreciate it, enjoy the fact that you find beauty in everything you see, profite la vie en rose 🥀 and do not grow bitter.

Value it:
The ‘could have, should have and would have’.
3 words that will haunt your mind and soul for a while, and you might not notice this, you might not want to notice it, but we do appreciate things more when we don’t have them, after all, we truly don’t know what we have until it’s gone.

Therefore, you

have to take care of it, of him, of her. Being in love it’s a like having a baby, you need to nourish it, pay attention to it, but you also need to give it some space of its own, let it grow, give it a chance to be missed but not forgotten.

Do not take it for granted:

When we assume that the other person is already ours, oh! that’s when love starts to run away.

A fatal error we humans do. You should never, ever stop chasing it! Surprise your partner with little details, make them fall in love with you every day at a time, not just one time.

Don’t be afraid of your feelings:
Because of being too afraid to speak up my mind in the past, I lost an opportunity. I had no guts and that is something that has changed since then.

If you feel something, say it, do not be afraid.


Yes, it is true, there is a possibility the other person will not feel the same way anymore, but there is also a possibility that they might! So do not be afraid to say you are sorry, to admit you were wrong, that you made a mistake, be the bigger man and do what your heart says.

It is never too late:
It is never too late to give an explanation; you will find peace in your heart if you end things in good terms, and stop being tormented by a past ghost. Who knows? Maybe things will end up in a pretty friendship.

Don’t be afraid to expose your heart, leave it right open, for years and years, I thought it was a like a beautiful vase, once broken, it could never be repaired. But now I see the heart as a treasure box, you need to keep pushing, trying to open it, because the exterior may be valuable, but it is what’s on the inside that counts, after all, it was the pain of love that made me grew up a bit more, it was then that I learned from my mistakes and now I see the errors of my ways.

Nevertheless, in those moments of darkness, when I was arguably at my weakest, I became stronger. I learned to appreciate silence, solitude and company. To spend time inside of my own head and question things that truly mattered. I learned to see past myself and appreciate the little things. I learned how to occupy my time and found new activities to enjoy. I learned how to express myself trough art. I learned how to pick myself up from the floor. I learned how to drink an entire bottle of wine on my own and most of all, I learn that drinking it away will not erase how you feel. I learned the power of words. I learned how to stand up for myself. I learned how to be independent, self-sufficient. I learned how to live my life without regrets, how to leave everything on the table and accept the fact that you sometimes win some and sometimes you lose some.

Bisous bisous

@kora_salas

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